Carla Golden: ‘If You Are Still Drinking, You’re Not Done Yet’ (Updated)

Carla Golden: ‘If You Are Still Drinking, You’re Not Done Yet’ (Updated)

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IF YOU’RE STILL DRINKING, YOU’RE NOT DONE YET
By Carla Golden
Carla Golden Wellness
January 7, 2013

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I’ve been crafting this blog post for months.

Why so long?

Because I’m scared to post it.

That’s how I know I must post it. It’s going to be a long post and it’s not for everyone.

It’s only for those who wish to lead a self-honest, clean life.

OK….here it goes….

This is what I’ve observed over the last four years: too many people drink too much alcohol.

What happened four years ago?

I stopped drinking. Not purposely, but as a side-effect of cleaning up my diet. My daily food gradually became so clean & simple that alcohol was too harsh of a contrast to stomach so it slowly phased itself out. It’s appeal faded naturally over time. I was surprised because I did not set out to become a teetotaler.

I’ve been living sober in a drunk world for four years and have collected some observations:

1. Living an alcohol-free lifestyle makes others very uncomfortable. When everyone is ready to “have a good time” the last thing they want around is someone abstaining. I don’t even have to say anything other than “I’ll have some sparkling water” to cause others to silence, stare, shrug and/or walk away.

It would be easier for others for me to be this way if I had overcome an alcohol addiction, been through rehab and were active in Alcoholics Anonymous. It would be more socially acceptable to be a rehabilitated alcoholic than a voluntary teetotaler. Alcohol has consumed our society.

2. Things look different when you’re the only sober person in the room. People are loud & silly and then they get stupid. It’s ok. Loud, silly & stupid are fun sometimes even when sober. But you know what? Loud, silly, stupid and drunk are not a pretty combination. It hurts to see others not being their highest (spiritually, not chemically) selves. It’s sad.

Alcohol is poison. I think about birds who eat fermented berries on the ground and then fly around bumping into branches or not being able to get off the ground. It’s sad to see a little bird wanting to fly but instead going in circles, grounded until the poison wears off.

3. Many a horrible thing has been said and done under the influence of alcohol. I don’t need to go into statistics of drunk driving for you. How often are alcohol-induced hurtful words spewed and then forgotten by everyone but the sober? How many words can’t be retracted because they can’t even be remembered? It’s dangerous to let fear lock up uncomfortable emotions and then let alcohol be the key that sets them free. It’s almost as dangerous as a car wreck.

4. Alcohol serves no nutritional purpose. There might be some antioxidants, vitamins or minerals, but nothing that’s not available in good food. If alcohol helps you relax and be at ease with yourself, perhaps what you need is yoga or breathing exercises. If alcohol helps you take the edge off, perhaps you need meditation or sound therapy. If alcohol lets you have fun, perhaps you need play therapy. If alcohol lets you be “the real you,” perhaps you need psychotherapy. If alcohol helps you to numb what pains you, you definitely need psychotherapy.

5. Crazy things happen when people drink too much too often. Relationships are destroyed, professions are ruined, bank accounts depleted, and trust eroded. You hang around other people who support the alcohol habit and before you know it you’re surrounded by people who are too numb to be authentically real. Everyone seems happy in a bar, but it’s false happiness. Artificial, chemically induced happiness. If you want true happiness, you’re not going to find it in a bottle.

I want to turn wine into water, beer into tea, and booze into green juice. I want being SOBER to be attractive, sexy & fun. I want our world’s youth to see that alcohol is dangerous, that there are no answers or solutions in alcohol and that there are safer lifelong ways to enjoy life. I want to start a Sober Rebellion & encourage Nutritional Sobriety.

I know what it’s like to be addicted. I was bulimic for five years and a smoker for 16. I lied, I stole, I bummed and I was in complete denial and unaware of the root of my pain. Over the years of being disgusted with myself I got honest, got help and started making changes. I stopped binging and purging, I quit smoking, then went the coffee, the sugar, food preservatives, artificial colors, high fructose corn syrup, MSG, hydrogenated oils and other crap. Alcohol is so low on the pH chart that for me to ingest it now would create physiological turmoil. Alcohol vibrates very slowly and attracts low vibrating emotions like anger, fear & guilt. No wellness or recovery protocol advocates the use of alcohol.

Here’s how to know if your diet is clean enough yet: if you’re still drinking alcohol, it’s not. It could be once a week or once a day, it doesn’t matter. If you are open to putting alcohol in your body, then your diet is not clean enough for optimal wellness. 

I see very fit people, even ones who get paid to be fit, choosing alcohol. I do not understand this, but I do understand that body shape is 80% diet and 20% exercise. Working out creates fitness. Eating well creates health. There is no amount exercise that can undo or over-ride a poor diet. One can be fit on the outside and unhealthy on the inside, as demonstrated by fitness experts who imbibe regularly.

Am I saying that no one should ever drink again?

No. But I’d like to see a lot of people drink a lot less.

And I am saying that I would like to see choosing not to drink to become a hip, cool & sexy new trend.

Here’s how to know you’re drinking too much:

1. you drink every night (or God help you, every day)

2. you can’t go a night or two without drinking

3. your drinking interferes with your responsibilities: personal hygiene, finances, family, spouse, work, sleep, school

4. you have been challenged the morning after with remembering what you said or didn’t say, where you went and how, and/or what you did or didn’t do

5. you have regrets for what you did or said under the influence of alcohol

I firmly believe that we are all on a quest for inner peace & happiness. We want to feel ok about who we are and how we live. We want to be accepted by others, especially those whose opinions mean so much to us. When we’re not feeling worthy of love, when we’re feeling invisible like our life doesn’t matter to anyone, when we feel like we have nothing to offer the world, we numb ourselves to endure the pain.

But it’s a silly attempt at self protection because the more we numb and avoid our pain the longer we procrastinate before taking the bold, necessary steps that will help us like ourselves better. To take better care of ourselves we have to value ourselves more and know that we matter no matter what, whether someone tells us this or not. The next steps may be brutally hard, but the lifelong reward & liberation are grand.

Put the bottle down, face your fears. Seek help. Journal. Talk. Share. Open up and know you are not alone. Take the next healthy step and overcome what you’ve been trying to drown. Your demons never go away until you make them your allies and you can’t do that in a drunken state.

To move your life forward you must be sober.

Drinking is a sign that your spirit is wounded and/or your diet is not optimal. You can drop the alcohol and your diet will clean up or you can clean up your diet and the alcohol will naturally fall away.

I can help you clean up your diet by recommending my 8 First Steps to a HAPPY™ Kitchen and The 9th HAPPY™ Step, both free. I can encourage you to use your diet as your spiritual practice and how to eat for God. Since I’ve been eating this way I have made leaps and bounds in my spiritual evolution, so fast and so large that each time I sit down to write for my blog I feel that the purpose of my blog has changed. Clean food is my medium for spiritual growth and I want to share the joy & peace with you.

There is no place in authentic joy, genuine happiness or spiritual enlightenment for alcohol. There never was. There never will be. Alcohol keeps you playing small and that’s not why you’re here. You are here to be happy.

Your happiness is a light. When you shine & share your light, you show others the path to happiness. A world full of happy people would be a bright, peaceful world.

Heal your body, elevate your spirit & increase your light. The world is waiting for you to illuminate the way. Love, Carla.

Additional Resources:

How To Be Sober & Happy

Soberistas

Soberistas on Facebook

The Do Plan, or Why We Know But Don’t Do

The Power of Habit

I’d love to read your comments… How do you feel about living an alcohol-free lifestyle? Share your stories. Post additional resources. Be bold, be beautiful, & be bright!

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HOW TO DRINK SENSIBLY OR NOT AT ALL
By Carla Golden
Carla Golden Wellness
January 14, 2013

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Last week I wrote from the heart in my post If You’re Still Drinking, You’re Not Done Yet about my deep concern for the over-consumption of alcohol .

The post was well read & received and garnered many comments of gratitude, testimony and inspiration.

I feel that this is a topic that generates discussion because it touches each of us in different and profound ways. It’s a concern for our time because alcohol seems to have taken over the social landscape.

What does it mean to “drink sensibly?” This phrase is about as vague as “eating in moderation.” Everyone has a different definition. Let’s gain clarity.

5 Versus 6 Ounces of Wine

5 Versus 6 Ounces of Wine

First, let’s break down the numbers. Below I have listed the calorie and carbohydrate counts for various wines, liquor & beer. For good measure I also adjusted counts for Coca Cola (one standard can is 12 oz.) and Ocean Spray Cranberry Cocktail just for comparison.

Did you know that both proteins and carbohydrates have 4 calories per gram, that fat has 9 calories per gram and that alcohol has 7 calories per gram?

Click image to see larger view.

Click image to see larger view.

How often have you split a bottle of wine with a friend? This means each of you are enjoying roughly 12.5 ounces of wine, which, if a Merlot, calculates to nearly 300 calories per person.

For 300 calories you could eat a 1 egg/2 egg-white omelet with 2 slices of light bread buttered, 1 sliced strawberry and 1 veggie sausage patty. Sharing a bottle of merlot with your friend over dinner is like adding a breakfast to your meal.

If you are trying to lose weight or maintain your weight, foregoing alcohol will be an easy place to cut calories. If you are dealing with depression, fatigue, anxiety, insomnia or taking prescription medications, you need to be extra careful with limiting your alcohol consumption as to not exacerbate your situation.

The US Government defines moderation as up to one drink a day for women and up to two drinks a day for men. One drink is the equivalent of 5 fluid ounces of wine, 12 fluid ounces of beer or 1.5 fluid ounces of 80 proof liquor.

Did you know that women who consume two or more alcoholic drinks per day are 25 percent more likely to develop breast cancer?

One Drink Equivalents

One Drink Equivalents

Be honest with yourself about your alcohol consumption. Dare to keep an Drink Diary for 30 days in which you note your daily consumption.

Additionally, here are some clever ways to reduce or eliminate alcohol consumption:

  • alternate alcohol drinks with non-alcohol drinks
  • have sparking water with a slice of lime in a cocktail or wine glass
  • relax: hot bath, tea, meditation, rest/nap
  • exercise: run, walk, yoga
  • journal – explore your feelings that lead you to drink
  • take up a new healthy hobby
  • seek therapy
  • do not keep alcohol at home
  • quit smoking (or other associated drinking habits)
  • eat a clean diet rich in fruits & vegetables

The Royal College of Physician’s special adviser on alcohol said being able to give up drinking for two days out of seven showed a drinker was not addicted.

I hope this information is inspiring and useful. I am committed to helping each and every one of you take good care of your health, eat & drink smartly and live long, happy lives.

If you feel this information would be useful, please share it with friends and family as well as on Facebook. I appreciate you helping me to spread the word.

Also, if you have additional motivational statistics about alcohol to share or tips for reducing consumption, please do so in the comment section before. I appreciate your feedback more than you know.

Sources:

1. University of Kansas: Alcohol Facts

2. How Many Calories in a Glass of Wine?

3. The Problem with Wine by the Glass

4. What’s the Standard Serving of Wine?

5. Is Wine High in Sugar and Carbs?

6. What Does 300 Calories Really Look Like?

7. Recommended Maximum Intake of Alcoholic Beverages

8. What is Moderation?

9. How Can We Prevent Breast Cancer?

10. House of Commons Science and Technology Committee Alcohol Guidelines

Carla Golden specializes in aromatherapeutic massage at her private massage studio Golden Touch Massage Therapy on Hilton Head Island in South Carolina, USA. She also lives, writes and teaches about Golden Eighty20™ nutrition and is the creator of Wellness Destinations Central, an online holistic healthcare directory that promotes practitioners in 71 different healing modalities all across America. 

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3 comments

  1. Steve

    1. you drink every night (or God help you, every day)
    I DRINK ONE BOTTLE OF WINE WITH MI WIFE IN ONE WEEK
    2. you can’t go a night or two without drinking
    I CAN GO YEARS WITHOUT DRINKING
    3. your drinking interferes with your responsibilities: personal hygiene, finances, family, spouse, work, sleep, school
    NEVER HAPPENED
    4. you have been challenged the morning after with remembering what you said or didn’t say, where you went and how, and/or what you did or didn’t do
    NEVER HAPPENED
    5. you have regrets for what you did or said under the influence of alcohol
    NEVER HAPPENED

    That being said, i think that with alcohol, just like with anything else, the important thing is that you do not abuse it.
    But i resent that someone want to impose their point of view (in this case being 100% alcohol free) on everybody. I call that dogmatism!

  2. Linda

    While I agree on many points, Carla, (including the one where you express fear in posting this :-)), I cannot completely agree that alcohol doesn’t have a place in a healthy, human life or society.

    Everyone needs to experience self-transcendence whether ‘upwared’ or ‘downward.’ I place these in quotes as they imply judgment towards valid spiritual paths such as Tantra. Our language around this stuff is terribly inaccurate.

    Additionally, it would be cruel to not allow humanity escape from the incessant monkey-mind just because they are not in a position to, or do not have the inclination, to pursue ‘upward’ self-transcendence. As you self-reported, (and, this is also true for me), your seeking after alcohol faded naturally after working on yourself from many different angles. Wouldn’t it be nice for others to be able to make this happy discovery as well? How are we to experience the positive aspects of a way of living without the contrast of the opposite to compare it to? Also, are you sure that a perfectly ‘clean diet’ is a prerequisite for spiritual growth? Is there really such a thing as a perfectly clean diet?

    I do applaud your observations about alcohol, it’s effects, and your sincere wishes for everyone to experience true health. I think they are relevant, caring and important. I just do not believe that they are the only way of looking at things.

    Love and light!
    Linda

  3. Thank you Steve for your reply. I’m glad your alcohol consumption is in check. Please recall that I wrote “Am I saying that no one should ever drink again? No. But I’d like to see a lot of people drink a lot less.”

    And thank you Linda for your remarks. There are many ways to temporarily escape the human condition, some which facilitate growth and others which facilitate demise. I can think of such positive ones as conversation, sex, a movie, a book, music, meditation or even just walking in nature. Yes, it would be delightful for others to make the happy discovery that self-development is a key to liberation. And, yes, contrast is important along every step of the spectrum. A clean diet has been key to my spiritual development and I offer my story for those who are on a similar path. I do not, and did not in my article, claim to be the keeper of the only path. And, no, there is probably not such thing as a perfectly clean diet, however, again, diets exist along a spectrum and again contrast is key to understanding.

    I thank you both for helping to clarify my viewpoint. Best, Carla.

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